Private instruction and coaching designed specifically around your goals – for the change you seek in your life.   Work directly with Midori and soar into your full potential- personally, relationally, or professionally. 

For your interpersonal relationships, with partners, lovers, co-worker and friends, Midori can help you:

  • Clarify your wants and needs, and improve your communications skills with anyone
  • Learn where your healthy boundaries are, how to set them, and how to enforce them.
  • Develop strategies for greater confidence and self-advocacy

"Midori has extraordinary expertise and deep experience in altsex and kink lifestyles and subcultures. This does not just include technical knowledge of how to tie knots and prevent rope burn. It includes boundary setting, nurturing, and grieving from the long years of the HIV pandemic. Her expertise is far broader than the boundaries of kinky lifestyles, with years of lived experience as an outsider first in Japanese culture, growing up as a mixed race outsider, and then in American culture. She brings disciplined imagination to her listening to our struggles with the outsider in all each of us.”

- Russell J Stambaugh, PhD

For your pleasure life, whether BDSM or otherwise, Midori can work with you to:

  • Figure out your desires and how to best explain them, so you get more of what you desire.
  • Understand your partner’s desires.
  • Be the best Top or Dominant you can be.  Develop more confidence in your dominance.
  • Be the best Bottom or Sub you can be. Find deeper satisfaction in your submission
  • Strategies on how to find good people and relationships
  • D/s relationship – How to find it, how to create it, protocol creation, and troubleshooting. Reality check your D/s
  • D/s relationship dissolution – Healthy exit and recovery
  • Learn Foundational BDSM skills. These may include how to create scenes, how to stay in joy, techniques with tools,
  • Develop deep BDSM wisdom towards the integrated, awakened and healing self
  • Establishing consensual authority and collaborative power

For your career and creative life, Midori can guide you in:

  • How to hold your own in a room, accessing healthy inner power, and holding space. 
  • Conversational Aikido – dodge the toxic behavior and connect with good people
  • How to unblock and feed your creativity. 
  • How to create and sustain a viable income stream on Patreon

Learn more about her creativity and arts business coaching through Intersection for the Arts


Your Goals + Session Structure

There are 3 categories of working privately with Midori

  • Foundational Skills:   1 to 3 sessions.   This is for learning specific BDSM skills, or foundation level information.  

  • Targeted Goals for Self-Improvement:  3 to 6 sessions.   This is best for people who want excellent guidance in making progress towards a personal or professional goal with a focus on creating strategies and tools for life.

  • The Big Picture:   Periodic and ongoing sessions, particularly suited for people who seek deep self-understanding, and those who seek positive support and accountability in their journey. Having a person you can talk about anything is a rare and beautiful thing.

Where is the appointment held?

Private coaching can happen in video conferences, phone conversations, or in-person. Preferences will be discussed on consultation call or while scheduling.

All sessions are scheduled in advance. 

NOTE: During the COVID pandemic, all appointments will be held virtually or on the phone. We will return to in-person appointments in the future when it is safe.

Contact us to schedule a free 30 minute call with Midori to see if she would be a good fit for what you want to learn and how you want to grow. In this conversation she will ask you about your goals, your experience, and what your needs are. You can ask her anything.  If you plan to have your partner in the private sessions, they can join too. No question is silly, this is your time. 

"For the past few years Midori has been an integral figure in my development as a sexuality professional. Midori’s Forte Femme Women’s Dominance Weekend was life changing in ways I could not anticipate. Since Forte Femme, it has been a gift to work with Midori on an individual level. During our bimonthly sexuality education consultations, Midori shares her wisdom and knowledge, we conceptualize kinky cases and dynamics, and together we navigate ideologies, frameworks, and worldviews. As a mental health provider and healer, quality supervision and consultation particularly regarding sexual health and intimacy is essential. Midori's coaching offers confidential, insightful, perspectives from an intersectional lens. Midori's lived experiences as practitioner and teacher, her conceptualizations of meta-themes in this field, her frameworks and ideology of kink and BDSM, are extraordinary. I work with excellent sex therapy supervisors in this field and while I will continue to seek supervision from a therapeutic perspective for the entirety of my work with people, the coaching regarding kink and BDSM that I experience with Midori is unparalleled. To work with Midori means to be challenged, to queer up and question how I know what I think I know, to consider possibilities in the variety of gaps in my human awareness. Midori is creative without limit. She is a brilliant mind and heart and soul. Midori is compassionate, a champion for those of us who are far from mainstream. I’m honored that Midori has been my mentor, teacher, confidante, and trusted friend. She is a gem in my life and in our world."

-Mia Fine, MS, LMFT, CST, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, AASECT Certified Sex Therapist


Coaching appointments can be blocks of 60 or 90 min and must be scheduled at least 24 hours in advance. Midori is willing to do a 30 min consultation free of charge, to see if it would be a good match for effective coaching. When initially reaching out, let us know what area you’d like to learn about or focus on. Describe it the best you can in your own words. 

Coaching calls can be done over the phone or on Zoom, a free video call platform. We suggest that you have an environment where it’s quiet and you can focus. 

Some examples of topics include… 

  • How to find a kinky partner.
  • Dealing with a D/s break up.
  • My partner and I are both kinky but like different things, how do we find ways to work together or craft scenes?
  • How do I find my own dominant voice? How do I engage in submission safely?
  • Basic kink skills: Bondage, impact play, fantasy role play, how to communicate kinky desire?
  • I am confused or troubled by desires or fetishes.
  • How do I navigate BDSM or sexually social cultures/communities?
  • I’ve been kinky for a long time and I’m feeling burned out, help?
  • How do I explore the intersection of my creativity, identity, and kink?

    For therapists and coaches, we can work together to create a program to establish or increase competency, developing your ability to better help your kinky clients.

    No question is silly, don’t see what you’re looking for? Ask Midori on her contact form or in a complimentary consultation call. 

1-4 people can be on a private lesson. 5-30 is considered a private class, which is also available. Let us know how many people you would like present in the beginning, so we can design the right experience for you.

  • If you want to learn a small skill such as enough rope to safely tie up a date, or how to create a hot kinky date night, Midori can work with you in 1-2 calls. 
  • If you’re interested in a deep dive on a single topic, we recommend a short series, such as 2-3 60 min sessions. 
  • Midori also offers creativity coaching and mentorship. These can be ongoing sessions at a regular interval, such as weekly or monthly.

Not to worry, homework is a lot of fun!

In this, Midori is cheeky. Homework is to give you a chance to practice what you learned.  

For coaching, homework can range from fun practice to more challenging work designed to help you achieve your goal. Homework is personalized for each individual, centered around achieving your objective joy and fulfillment.

No.   She is likely to assign homework for you to do on your own time. Skills classes will be taught fully clothed.

No. This is about education and building the tools and skills for you.

We accept Venmo, PayPal or CashApp for individual sessions or discounted packages. 

Unfortunately, no.

Your first call will be a complimentary 30 min consultation. Midori will go over rates with you at the end of the call. 

You may want to consider investing in a 5-session package for a discounted rate.

These sessions are valid for one year from date of registration. 

Midori is happy to work with your existing therapy program, to customize your coaching to be the most supportive. Midori has also actively collaborated with student’s coaches and therapists as the student desired. If this is something you are interested in, you can inquire during a coaching session.

Many professionals refer their clients to Midori for coaching, but she is also available to support professionals in deepening their understanding of BDSM in life and relationships. If you would like to learn kink competency, Midori can provide practical, pragmatic tools, so you can better serve your clients. Please contact us to set up a complimentary 30 min consultation call with Midori

Depending on your professional association or academic program, this might be possible. Please discuss this with your certification organization

Midori’s classes are practical, informative, entertaining, and always enlightening. Whether you are entirely new to the world of alternative pleasure or have a lot of experience, her classes offer value at every level. 

Voted “Best Sex Educator” by SF Weekly Magazine in 2013, Midori’s reputation as an authority and leading expert on alternative pleasures stem not only from her unique and entertaining process of teaching concrete skills, but in her ability to deconstruct and distill complex matters of desire into surprisingly accessible lessons with eloquence and humanity. She’s known for tackling challenging topics with fresh and relevant insights. 

Midori organizes many of her own classes at local venues and online. She also presents at conferences, colleges, special events, and other host organizations. Her content can be tailored to suit the novice individual to the skilled couple, undergrad students to professional organizations. 

Some of Midori’s classes Include...

      • Art of Feminine Dominance
      • Aural Sex: Seduction by Voice & Erotic Storytelling
      • Best Kink Advice Nobody Told You
      • Erotic Humiliation Play
      • Erotic Rope Play 
      • Heart of Shibari – Hands-on Deep Dive
      • History of Shibari – Japanese Rope Bondage
      • How to Create Amazing Scenes
      • Mapping Your D/s Archetype
      • Rope Bondage: Sense & Sensuality
      • Scarf Bound for Pleasure
      • The Exquisite Whip: Hands on Flogging Glass
      • Whip Fit: Flogger Based Cardio and Movement
      • And many more…


Deep-dive weekend intensives are the heart of Midori’s work. She takes the time to get to know each attendee through pre-course questionnaires and nurtures their growth in small group environments. She anchors foundational information and builds into more advanced skills, giving personalized attention along the way. Her intensives emphasize understanding the psychological and emotional structure of joyous BDSM, teaching you how to make your explorations safe, healthy, and fun. 

2 day deep dive intensive for 30 people, with 6 amazing instructors.

Focusing on the joy and pleasure of rope bondage and shibari for people’s private play. Rope Dojo is a training ground for layered and nuanced skills connecting mind, body, spirit into creating shared delight.

Instruction includes...

  • Safety
  • Rope selection
  • Rope handling
  • Partner communication
  • Speed and flow
  • Creativity challenges
  • Repetition and accuracy drills
  • Full body movements
  • Becoming present, connected, and joyful
  • Creating exceptional scenes
  • And so much more…

3 day intensive for 8 women, in New York and San Francisco

Gain the tools to tap into your authentic power, on your terms, to co-create joy with your partners. Cultivate the skills to walk through the world in harmony and confidence.

Instruction includes...

  • Psychology and motivation of BDSM
  • How to understand our desires 
  • How to express your desires in clear, effective, and sexy ways. 
  • Confidence skills for body, mind, and spirit
  • How to hold space- and what that even means. 
  • Finding your authentic dominance style
  • Understanding what your partner is communicating 
  • Scene dynamics and flow
  • Basics of bondage
  • Exquisite flogging skills
  • Private dinner party and alumnae social
  • Field trip to BDSM stores
  • And so much more…

COVID-19 Update

Weekend Intensives have been on hold until we felt confident that we could safely be in a room together without masks. These intensives are deep dive, in-person experiences that serve attendees best when they can experience their personal development in the container created between the small group and their instructor(s).

We are thrilled to announce the return of ForteFemme in Spring 2022

Should the state of COVID-19 change significantly in the coming months, we will prioritize the safety of our staff and attendees by postponing the events. 


Everyone from the curious 18 year old to the experienced 80 year old. People who come to our classes tend to be curious people looking for quality information in a safe environment. People of all genders, races, and orientations who want to increase the experience of pleasure for themselves and their partners. The only limitations are that you need to be 18+ years old and respectful and kind.

With rare exception, our classes are designed for everyone to be able to attend solo or with partners. Occasionally there are classes where having an exercise buddy is suggested or required. For such classes, you can come with a friend or someone you’re comfortable with. It can be, but is not limited to, romantic or intimate partners. If you are attending solo and wish to participate in the exercise, you may work with another solo attendee.

You don’t need to have kink experience. Bring the life experience you have and we will help you learn to create the experiences that you desire. If you are kink experienced, Midori may challenge you to refresh your perspective and level up.

Any individual attending needs to purchase a ticket. Many of our classes have discounted pair pricing. If you’re attending with anyone else, whether they are your submissive or not. Please purchase the appropriate amount of tickets.

Absolutely! This gives you an opportunity to clarify your desires and delights in your solo pleasure and give you clarity of communication skills for future relationships. We invite you to enjoy a convivial atmosphere of like minded people.

You don’t have to chose just one person to bring. The more the merrier!

Please make sure everyone is briefed on class preparation and requirements as specified for each class. All attendees will need their own ticket. 

This is not a problem! While many of the lessons are described with variations ranging from solo practice to multiple person relationships, most exercises in class are designed for 2 people, to ensure efficiency and time management of the class flow. One of the people in your group will need to partner with another solo attendee. After class we encourage you to do the homework together.

I do teach suspension in ongoing, one-on-one coaching. There are so many variables to rope bondage and suspension that Midori feels personalized instruction is the safest and most effective way to learn.

Not to worry, homework for classes is a lot of fun!

In this, Midori is cheeky. Homework is to give you a chance to practice what you learned in class. Fun, and an excuse to play, is what Midori means by homework.

For coaching, Midori assigns homework that range from fun to more challenging work designed to help you achieve your goal. Homework is personalized for each individual, centered around achieving your objective joy and fulfilment.

For conversational classes, we encourage you to bring note taking devices and to make sure you are in an environment that allows for focus and curiosity. Any class that requires you bring specific tools or equipment will be specified in the description (such as rope, etc). 

Everybody needs an auntie that they can talk freely with. An auntie’s job is to loo out for everyone’s best interest and help you achieve your goals while having a good time doing it. An auntie isn’t shy to celebrate you or remind you when you’re a bit off track. Midori’s offerings and advice, aren’t only in the realm of kink, so don’t be surprised if she also helps you out in other areas of life you didn’t expect. (Ask her about tea!)

Typically, no. We value your privacy in person and online. 

Sometimes the classes are recorded, such as certain conferences or online presentations. If this will be the case you will be notified early and explicitly with the opportunity to opt out, adjust your onscreen appearance, turn your camera off, or remove your name from the preview, etc. 

Maybe! Not all of our classes can be taught effectively online. Some are being reworked to offer digitally and will be available soon. To see which classes Midori will be teaching soon, take a look at her calendar.

Midori loves bringing her classes to sex positive organizations. In person appearances are on hold until it is safe to gather again. Some classes are available to be taught online, let’s discuss what you’re looking for.

Please fill out the contact form to schedule a time to chat.

Typically her intensives are offered a few times a year and are listed on her calendar and on their respective websites. 

With careful consideration for the health of our team and future attendees, Midori’s weekend intensives will be postponed until we feel confident that we can safely be in a room together without masks. These are deep dive, in person experiences that serve attendees best when they can experience their personal development in the container created between the small group and their instructor, Midori. We will be looking at how to create safe opportunities for deeper learning during the current COVID reality.

Midori loves talking with people and sharing her tools and stories on podcasts, television shows, and other publications. You can see some of her features on her Media page.

Fill out the contact form to discuss possibilities!


Art, educational videos, conversation, fascinating guest speakers and scintillating artists, instructional essays and curious fiction, creative challenge gatherings, live events and gatherings, small group office hours….  Your key to a rich trove of information, special resources, and direct access to the creative brilliance of Midori and her artistic process. 

Beyond her education and coaching work, Midori is an artist who works in a wide range of medium and methodologies.  She describes her dual career of sexology and art as two sides of the same coin – fostering authentic, creative self-expression in all aspects of life.  In her Patreon you’ll get to early access to her writings, art and classes, works in progress and early releases of classes

Midori’s Patreon community is one of her deepest joys, and this shows in the depth of the content she shares with you.

Subscribe for access to current events and archives.  It’s simple – you decide how much to pay for the monthly or annual subscription. 


Here are some of the events and resources in Midori’s Patreon:

  • Whip Fit: Live online class – flogging based light cardio and movement class
    Auntie Midori’s Office Hours: Every other week, answering your questions. Live event plus full access to the video after.
  • Auntie Midori’s BDSM Basics videos
  • Instructional articles
  • Art contests & prizes
  • Hella Kvetch – weekly video show by Laura Antoniou and Midori on sex, art, life, and how to be fulfilled creatives
  • Surprise gifts in the mail
  • Smut Writing 101 & 201 with Jane Boon
  • Connecting Threads all ages art making and story telling